Comments on: How to Pull the Knife Out of Your Back http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back Fri, 06 Jan 2012 20:20:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sandeep http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-2535 Sandeep Sat, 26 Mar 2011 19:20:43 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-2535 Another good insight to get guided from.... Thanks for posting and all such stuff helps to bring us back on rails, wherever required... Another good insight to get guided from…. Thanks for posting and all such stuff helps to bring us back on rails, wherever required…

]]> By: Porfirio Stegner http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-2272 Porfirio Stegner Thu, 09 Dec 2010 17:32:20 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-2272 Cool post mate. Cool post mate.

]]> By: Amy http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-874 Amy Fri, 04 Jun 2010 11:46:34 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-874 Andrew - I don't think this is a guideline for perfection. Perhaps the central message is not to act in the moment. JT - I hope you're right but I've run into some mean spirited folks. Laura - Thank you. I'm grateful for your friendship. As our lives become more public and we embrace transparency I believe it allows us to be more open to giving and receiving the help that we all need. Thanks for the thoughts and comments. Andrew – I don’t think this is a guideline for perfection. Perhaps the central message is not to act in the moment.

JT – I hope you’re right but I’ve run into some mean spirited folks.

Laura – Thank you. I’m grateful for your friendship.

As our lives become more public and we embrace transparency I believe it allows us to be more open to giving and receiving the help that we all need.

Thanks for the thoughts and comments.

]]> By: Emily http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-860 Emily Tue, 01 Jun 2010 03:20:54 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-860 Andrew - I don't think this is a guideline for perfection. Perhaps the central message is not to act in the moment. JT - I hope you're right but I've run into some mean spirited folks. Laura - Thank you. I'm grateful for your friendship. As our lives become more public and we embrace transparency I believe it allows us to be more open to giving and receiving the help that we all need. Thanks for the thoughts and comments. Andrew – I don’t think this is a guideline for perfection. Perhaps the central message is not to act in the moment.

JT – I hope you’re right but I’ve run into some mean spirited folks.

Laura – Thank you. I’m grateful for your friendship.

As our lives become more public and we embrace transparency I believe it allows us to be more open to giving and receiving the help that we all need.

Thanks for the thoughts and comments.

]]> By: Steve http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-836 Steve Fri, 28 May 2010 09:32:07 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-836 Jeff- Great post...and something that is too often swept under the carpet and/or dealt with in silence, so I appreciate you sharing :) Sierra Jeff-
Great post…and something that is too often swept under the carpet and/or dealt with in silence, so I appreciate you sharing :)

Sierra

]]> By: Bruce http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-795 Bruce Wed, 19 May 2010 15:12:25 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-795 Jeff, you pose intriguing questions. I pondered this one.. First, I agree and resonate with everyone above... When I am the one dissed and I react... its usually about me. I know it can hurt depending on the level of the offense and no one really wants to be rejected, treated badly or betrayed. I now find the direct approach to be the simplest. If this is a relationship I want to move toward, I wait for a neutral zone and ask how they intended the remark or action. There may be other factors at work which have nothing to do with me. This also allows a breathing space for them to 'own' or evaluate their part. Sometimes the relationship deepens, sometimes it just stays the same. Its a matter of degrees. If at the end of the day, the relationship or person is not one I want to cultivate, I just walk away with a resolve to move on. In a perfect world, I see to forgive... it releases both of us... even if they don't know they were forgiven. Forgiveness is not always easy, but for me, it is the only path that allows me to show up as who I really want to be and to be free to love more. Jeff, you pose intriguing questions. I pondered this one.. First, I agree and resonate with everyone above… When I am the one dissed and I react… its usually about me. I know it can hurt depending on the level of the offense and no one really wants to be rejected, treated badly or betrayed.

I now find the direct approach to be the simplest. If this is a relationship I want to move toward, I wait for a neutral zone and ask how they intended the remark or action. There may be other factors at work which have nothing to do with me. This also allows a breathing space for them to ‘own’ or evaluate their part. Sometimes the relationship deepens, sometimes it just stays the same.

Its a matter of degrees. If at the end of the day, the relationship or person is not one I want to cultivate, I just walk away with a resolve to move on. In a perfect world, I see to forgive… it releases both of us… even if they don’t know they were forgiven. Forgiveness is not always easy, but for me, it is the only path that allows me to show up as who I really want to be and to be free to love more.

]]> By: Amy http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-730 Amy Fri, 23 Apr 2010 07:37:28 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-730 Jeff, you pose intriguing questions. I pondered this one.. First, I agree and resonate with everyone above... When I am the one dissed and I react... its usually about me. I know it can hurt depending on the level of the offense and no one really wants to be rejected, treated badly or betrayed. I now find the direct approach to be the simplest. If this is a relationship I want to move toward, I wait for a neutral zone and ask how they intended the remark or action. There may be other factors at work which have nothing to do with me. This also allows a breathing space for them to 'own' or evaluate their part. Sometimes the relationship deepens, sometimes it just stays the same. Its a matter of degrees. If at the end of the day, the relationship or person is not one I want to cultivate, I just walk away with a resolve to move on. In a perfect world, I see to forgive... it releases both of us... even if they don't know they were forgiven. Forgiveness is not always easy, but for me, it is the only path that allows me to show up as who I really want to be and to be free to love more. Jeff, you pose intriguing questions. I pondered this one.. First, I agree and resonate with everyone above… When I am the one dissed and I react… its usually about me. I know it can hurt depending on the level of the offense and no one really wants to be rejected, treated badly or betrayed.

I now find the direct approach to be the simplest. If this is a relationship I want to move toward, I wait for a neutral zone and ask how they intended the remark or action. There may be other factors at work which have nothing to do with me. This also allows a breathing space for them to ‘own’ or evaluate their part. Sometimes the relationship deepens, sometimes it just stays the same.

Its a matter of degrees. If at the end of the day, the relationship or person is not one I want to cultivate, I just walk away with a resolve to move on. In a perfect world, I see to forgive… it releases both of us… even if they don’t know they were forgiven. Forgiveness is not always easy, but for me, it is the only path that allows me to show up as who I really want to be and to be free to love more.

]]> By: Металлопластик http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-503 Металлопластик Tue, 23 Mar 2010 06:14:18 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-503 Хм… Мне пригодится… Хм… Мне пригодится…

]]> By: Jeff Marmins http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-340 Jeff Marmins Wed, 24 Feb 2010 19:08:28 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-340 grateful for the blog comment! when can we catch up??!?? grateful for the blog comment! when can we catch up??!??

]]> By: Sierra Friend http://www.jeffmarmins.com/effectiveness/how-to-pull-the-knife-out-of-your-back/comment-page-1/#comment-313 Sierra Friend Thu, 18 Feb 2010 15:01:30 +0000 http://www.jeffmarmins.com/?p=234#comment-313 Jeff- Great post...and something that is too often swept under the carpet and/or dealt with in silence, so I appreciate you sharing :) Sierra Jeff-
Great post…and something that is too often swept under the carpet and/or dealt with in silence, so I appreciate you sharing :)

Sierra

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